It's no surprise that planning a wedding can make you break out the tissues; as it turns out, there are distinct emotional phases you may go through before getting married. You can experience these stages in any order, and every person's experience is just as unique as their wedding.
By: Stefania SainatoStage 5: Decision Fatigue
A typical conversation with my now-husband in this stage went something like this:
Bride: "Babe, what song should we use for our same-day edit video? How about 'When You Got a Good Thing' by Lady Antebellum? Too country? 'White Dress' by Ben Rector? Overused? An acoustic male rendition of 'Teenage Dream' by Katy Perry? Too quirky? Forget it, just let the videographer choose, I'm done making decisions and never want to see another song list for as long as I live..."
Groom: ...
Bride: "But what if we hate the one they pick? Oh yeah, did you remember to tell the groomsmen to try on their tuxes?"
Groom: ...
Bride: "We have to drop off the programs, pick up a few extra favors and make sure we have everything for the hall. Want me to text you a reminder to-do list? Oh my God, we never submitted the final check to the DJ!"
How to make the most of this stage:
This frenzied kind of thinking is a scientific phenomenon. The New York Times reports that our capacity to weigh options gets maxed out when we're calling upon it too often. Author John Tierney describes planning for a wedding "the decision-fatigue equivalent of Hell Week." More often than not, decision fatigue not only saps your energy, but it can put a huge strain on your relationship, too. When you realize your partner is suffering from overload or vice versa, set the decision aside. Go out on a date, work out, read a book, do anything but talk about the wedding. Not only will this put you in a better mood, but it'll give you perspective to eventually come up with the right answer.
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