Recently, I was invited to participate on a panel of judges to select the winning dress design for the “Bride of the Future,” created by the super-talented students of the High School of Fashion Industries in New York City.

Mara Urshel and Robert di Mauro with the finalists' gowns.

The judging took place at the Kleinfeld Bridal Salon, where Mara Urshel and Robert di Mauro, who created the contest, presented the students and their designs. My fellow judges (designer Lazaro, and Kleinfeld’s Dorothy Silver and Jacques Vignault) and I were thrilled to see the level of creativity and skill exhibited by these high school students. This past semester, under the guidance of their instructors, Sandra Manning and Adrian Carranza, they sketched gowns and created inspiration boards for the “Bride of the Future.” From the 25 or 30 sketches we viewed in February, five finalists were chosen and the class was then divided into teams to bring the sketches to life.

Photo Credit: Ian Grant Photography

Your wedding vows are the most sacred and meaningful words you’ll ever speak. Some couples opt to use traditional vows, capped off with that memorable "I do," while others prefer to be wed in their own words. My fiancé Corey and I have decided to include both versions at our nuptials. Although we won't be sharing our personal vows with anyone until the day of our wedding (we don't want to give away the surprise!), here are some ways we're making them meaningful to us.

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1. DO make it personal. The reason why many couples choose to write their own vows is because they want to convey their love for one another in a unique way that is specific to their relationship as a couple. Describe why you care about your partner and how much you value the fact that they've chosen to spend the rest of their life with you.

2. DON'T make it too personal. Remember, you have an audience… and that might include Grandma and Grandpa! Reference personal aspects of your relationship, but avoid mentioning how sexy you think your future husband/wife is or anything else that can be misconstrued as borderline inappropriate. It's probably best to tell them these things in private.