Things have changed a lot since your parents got hitched! Check out the new and improved ways modern couples are creating unique, thoroughly personal events.
By: Kristen Finello
Rule #4 Have a ball at your own party!
The old way: Being "on duty" and spending the entire reception greeting guests and posing for pictures.
The new way: Enjoying every minute of your once-in-a-lifetime celebration.
Photo Credit: Photographic Dreams
Of course, graciousness will never go out of style, which means you absolutely must greet each guest personally and thank him or her for coming to your wedding. But there are clever ways to handle your hosting responsibilities so the whole day doesn't pass in a blur — and leave you without a moment to enjoy even a bite of your carefully chosen wedding meal. First, take as many of your "posed" photos as possible before the ceremony, so that you can attend the cocktail party along with everyone else. Yes, that means you'll have to see your groom before you walk down the aisle. But think of it this way, suggests Southerland: "Many couples find it thrilling to spend a private moment together before the ceremony," she says. "It's their chance to bond for a few minutes and say, ‘Wow, today's the day!' " Also, consider forgoing a receiving line. "Many parents still think it's necessary, but mingling with guests at the cocktail hour is much better," says Shutt. "This way, you can have more casual conversations with your guests instead of just a quick hello as they move down the line."
Even if you do plan to have your photographs taken during the cocktail hour (so that you can be "presented" at the reception as husband and wife), there are a few timesaving moves you can make to enjoy your party fully. Visit guest tables between courses so you can eat along with everyone else. Sneak in a few twirls on the dance floor—guests will surely understand your breaking away from a conversation for this. If you have a large wedding, it's okay for you and your husband to "divide and conquer"—each of you can visit with guests from your "sides." This way, you'll slash your meet-and-greet time in half.
