20+ Ways to Give Thanks at Your Wedding
In the spirit of the season, we've gathered some fun ways to give thanks before, during, and after your big day.
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Keep a gratitude journal -167532
Unlike a regular diary, which requires daily upkeep, jot down quick thoughts about your planning "highs" (e.g. what you felt like when you bought your dress) whenever you have the time. You can also use it to store fun mementos like a sketch of your cake.
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Spend quality time with your maid of honor and best man
Plan a one-on-one hangout before the wedding chaos takes over. You'll relish the opportunity to bond with them before the biggest day of your life.
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Exchange letters on the morning of the wedding
Sure, "meet you down the aisle" texts are charming, but there's nothing quite like putting pen to paper. Thank your future spouse for marrying you and making you the luckiest woman alive. Capture each other's reaction on film by reading the letters out loud for your videographer.
Related: 60 Must-Have "Getting Ready" Photos
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Unveil a fun wedding surprise for your groom
Is ESPN the soundtrack of your home? Give a nod to his sports obsession by having guests sign a jersey as your "guest book." Did he spend his childhood (and beyond) secretly wishing he was Spiderman? We're smitten with this creative take on the groom's cake.
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Savor a quiet moment together
Soak in your surroundings — the stunning reception space that took months to plan, friends and family busting a move on the dance floor, that giddy look on your husband's face that says, "We finally did it."
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Dedicate your wedding to both sets of parents
At the ceremony, ask the officiant if you could read a poem in honor of your family. Here's one example of wording we love: "We would like to dedicate this ceremony to our parents. They have taught us our values and shown us how to laugh, love and appreciate all that life has to offer. Their generosity, support, and love are unending." Or, you can surprise them at the reception, instead. Imagine the look on their faces when they flip over this drink coaster!
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Honor your parents' marriage by incorporating their wedding-day photos
Whether it's one small photo tucked into your armoire or a dedicated corner at the sign-in table, they'll appreciate the sentimental gesture. Or, have your photographer help you re-create one of their favorite shots.
Photo Credits (from top to bottom): Ana Lui; Zenobia Studios and Ashfall Mixed Media
Carry a piece of them down the aisle with you
Use fabric from your mother's wedding dress as your bouquet holder (like the photo pictured at right), or hang miniature childhood photos from your flowers. Instead of doing a bouquet toss, give a speech at the reception dedicating your bouquet to the most important woman in your life — Mom.
Related: Unique Wedding Bouquet Details
Bouquet at left photographed by Alisha + Brook Photographers / Bouquet at right created by Edge Design Group; photographed by Nadia D. Photography
Give Mom and Dad one last hug
Take the time to stop for one final display of affection. Just remind your parents that the officiant is waiting if they refuse to let go.
Related: 200+ Emotional Wedding Moments
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Toast to all of the times that your bridal party supported you
Thank your bridal party attendants for sharing in the joy of your wedding day with a quick speech. Don't forget to hand out a glass of bubbly to each bridesmaid before you hit the road!
Photo Credit: Carrie Wildes Photography
Spend one-on-one time with your flower girl and ring bearer
Give the little ones a bucket filled with crayons and activities to keep them busy at the reception, let them play with your dress, and say "cheese" in the front of the camera for their very own portrait.
Related: Adorable Pics to Take With Your Ring Bearer and Flower Girl
Photo Credits (from left to right): Joshua McCoy Photography and Angel Canary Photography
Give your bridal party kudos in your wedding program
Explain what their relationship is to you (a sister, friend, coworker) and include a few fun facts about them.
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Dedicate a special song to your 'maids and groomsmen
Don't require them to practice a dance beforehand, unless you're Zumba buddies or were in a dance troupe back in high school! Just have your DJ or band play a song from your past and watch unscripted hilarity ensue.
Related: All Together Now: Choreographed Wedding Dances That Make Us Smile
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Thank your vendors for making your wedding vision come to life
After all of those emails, calls, brainstorming sessions, and, yes, the times that they saved your behind, express how much you appreciate them with a heartfelt card. Pay it forward by writing a positive review online, if you were happy with their service.
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Give vendors a shout-out in your toast
If you plan on saying a few words to welcome guests to the wedding reception, mention all of the vendors who helped make your night (or day) a success.
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Create a heartfelt guest book alternative
Your wedding day is the one time when you're surrounded by everyone who loves you, all in the same room. What better way to bottle up all of their good wishes than by preserving and displaying them in your home afterward?
Related: 50 Unique Wedding Guest Book Ideas
Photo Credits (from top to bottom): K and K Photography and Rachael Foster Photography
Incorporate "thanks" as part of your wedding décor
One popular option is to display a special thank-you on the menu. Or, you could include a meaningful blessing or prayer.
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Have fun with your thank-you cards
A custom illustration makes signing all of those notes that much more bearable (and, dare we say it, fun).
Related: Etiquette Q&A: "What Should We Write in Our Thank-You Notes?"
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Give back to your community with charitable favors
Donate to a cause that is close to your heart and include a note explaining the significance behind your choice.
Related: 15 Simple Ways To Use Your Wedding To Pay It Forward
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Donate your dress
After the big day, you can donate your dress and any other bridal accessories to Brides Against Breast Cancer, which will resell it and use the proceeds to help a woman with cancer. Or, you can gift it to Brides for a Cause, which collects and resells gowns to support Wish Upon a Wedding, a non-profit organization that grants weddings to couples in need.
If your bridesmaids are interested, they can donate their dresses as well, to organizations that provide prom dresses to disadvantaged high school girls. If you live in Chicago, check out The Glass Slipper Project.
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Donate flowers
Look fofr organizations that will re-assemble your donations into new floral arrangements for hospices and nursing homes that could use some cheer.
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Donate food
Arrange to have any extra food from your reception "rescued" to feed hungry people in your area. Find out more at Second Harvest.
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Keep the spirit of gratitude going in your marriage
Leave secret messages for your spouse to find. At dinner, take a cue from Oprah Winfrey and tell them about three blessings that happened to you on that day. "When you focus on what you have, your abundance only increases," the talk show host has said.
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