Etiquette Q&A: "How Do We Tell Someone They're Not Invited?"

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Q. My fiancé and I are planning a small wedding with only immediate family and a few close friends in attendance. If someone asks me if they’re invited to the wedding — and they’re not — what should I say?

A. Just be gracious — this is a very common dilemma for engaged couples. Let them know how flattered you are that they would like to attend your wedding, and then explain that as much as you would love to invite a huge crowd, you’ve decided that a smaller gathering is more suitable. You can elaborate further — limited space, budget constraints, large families — or simply leave it at that. And if it’s someone you really would have liked to invite, promise to have him or her to your new home after the honeymoon to look at your wedding photos.

—Diane Forden

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