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Q: I was surprised to receive an invitation to a friend's wedding that was only addressed to me. She knows I'm engaged and has met my partner. Shouldn't their name be on the invitation as well?
A: The rule of thumb is to invite the partner of anyone who is married, engaged, living with someone, or in a relationship of six months or more. Members of the wedding party should also be invited with a guest. If you happen to be living together, then your betrothed's name should have been written beneath yours on the envelope. If your spouse-to-be has their own place, your friend should have asked for their address and sent them an invitation.
Perhaps she just assumes that you will both attend or inadvertently omitted your intended's name on the envelope. Either way, it wouldn't hurt to find out. Thank her for the invitation and ask if your partner is also invited: "I know the invitation is addressed only to me, but I assume my partner is invited as well and just want to confirm this with you."
If she isn’t inviting your spouse-to-be, she'll need to explain this etiquette "don't," but our guess is that your partner is definitely on the guest list.
—Mary Clarke
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