Etiquette Q&A: "How Can We Keep the Guest List Under Control?"

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Q. How can we keep the guest list under control?

A. The size of your guest list is an important issue because it will largely affect the total cost of your wedding. In most cases, you, your fiancé and both of your families will each have his or her own idea about who should be invited.

To get off on the right foot, have everyone involved submit a list of the people they’d like to attend. They should rank the names in order of importance, starting at the top. Then you and your fiancé can compare the lists and cross off any duplications. Add up the numbers that are left to determine how close you are to your estimated guest count and figure out how many more people you may need to eliminate (or, if you’re lucky, who you can add!). Then, have each of the parties involved cut an assigned number of names, starting from the bottom of his or her personal list. This way, both families are treated fairly, while you manage to keep control over the size of the guest list.

Plus, check out 10 Things to Keep in Mind When Creating Your Guest List.

—Diane Forden