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Etiquette Q&A: "Should We Have a Cash Bar?"

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Q: My parents are paying for the wedding and do not want liquor served at the reception. My fiancé and I disagree, and we have enough money saved to pay for it ourselves. How should I tell my parents, or should we offer a cash bar?

A: First of all, no cash bar! Guests should never be expected to pay for any of the food or drinks at a wedding. If you and your fiancé can afford to provide alcoholic beverages, then by all means do so. Let your parents know that it’s important to you that alcohol is served and you’re more than happy to pick up the tab. They may not approve, but ultimately, it’s your choice, and as long as you’re footing the bill, they shouldn’t object. 

In order to save on the cost, consider serving only beer and wine, and compare the price of the house liquor as opposed to name brands. You may to able to save more than you think. Stocking your own bar? Here's how much booze you'll need ► 

—Diane Forden

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