Etiquette Q&A: "When Do We Give Our Attendants Their Gifts?"

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Q. When is the best time to give our attendants their gifts?

A. Most brides and grooms give their gifts to the wedding party at the rehearsal dinner. Following the main course, dessert is served and the toasts begin. Just so you know, it is customary for the best man to start off by toasting the couple, followed by the groom’s father (traditionally the groom’s parents are the hosts of the event). Afterward, you can acknowledge your attendants and give them the gifts. How you do so is entirely up to you. You can keep things lighthearted and fun or be a bit more sentimental. You can make a general announcement and dispense the gifts all at once, or you might want to say something special about each member of your wedding party before presenting that person with your memento. Do what feels most natural and comfortable. I’m sure your friends will appreciate however you choose to honor them.

—Diane Forden